Today on The Lego Chronicles Podcast Dylan sits down with Bailey Crisosto. She is the owner of the Pretty in Pink Fashion Boutique in Red Bluff California. https://www.prettyinpink.pink/
We go beyond the storefront of the Pretty in Pink boutique, peeking behind the scenes of a business where community, creativity, and personal connection are as much the products as the fashionable items that line the shelves.
Bailey's story, punctuated with the occasional Lego-building session and a few island adventures, shows us that the building blocks of a fulfilling life can sometimes be assembled in the most unexpected ways.
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Today on The Lego Chronicles Podcast Dylan sits down with Bailey Crisosto. She is the owner of the Pretty in Pink Fashion Boutique in Red Bluff California. https://www.prettyinpink.pink/
We go beyond the storefront of the Pretty in Pink boutique, peeking behind the scenes of a business where community, creativity, and personal connection are as much the products as the fashionable items that line the shelves.
Bailey's story, punctuated with the occasional Lego-building session and a few island adventures, shows us that the building blocks of a fulfilling life can sometimes be assembled in the most unexpected ways.
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Um, so we've been rolling for a couple of minutes, Um this is my guest Bailey. She owns this wonderful shop in downtown Red Bluff. Uh, it's called pretty in pink. Could you tell us a little bit more about that and how you came to own a business at such a young age?
Bailey :Yeah, um, honestly, I totally thought growing up that I would be a teacher Like my whole life. I always was like I'm going to be a teacher.
Bailey :I love children, which I still love children. But, um, when we moved back from Kansas, I was like, okay, I'm going to start pursuing that and be like a teacher and stuff like that. So that was like in 2020 is when we moved back, and around that time I was able to get hired on at an elementary school as a paraprofessional and it's like pretty much a teacher's aid, like a fancy teacher's aid, but um.
Dylan :I never heard that term. Paraprofessional it's so nice to have a professional.
Bailey :It makes me seem like I'm in farting, but really I'm not. But it's like the first steps of like getting my toes into the water because like they would pay for school, if you like continued yeah, so um, yeah, in the direction, yeah, and I totally went in. It was during COVID and I literally went in, dropped up my application and she was like oh, you're hired. No, like no interview, nothing. It was just kind of like okay.
Dylan :You wanted a job. Yeah, you want to work there, okay.
Bailey :No, I had no idea what I was in for, so I got hired on as a paraprofessional. I didn't have the fine friends. I was a paraprofessional for special education children, which is way different than just being a teacher's aid.
Dylan :It's a lot of like take a little extra training.
Bailey :You would think so, but it was. Covid, so they were going through a lot of hoops. Don't say me Like dropping all the secrets, Um, but because of that they didn't provide me like training or anything I'm like at that time. I'm 20 years old, going in, not knowing what I'm doing.
Bailey :And so I was like, oh my gosh, I'm going to love this so much, it's going to be such a great job. And yeah, it was not. It was very hard. I was like we had ages pre-K through third grade, yeah, and a lot of the school system was just like throwing kids into this classroom with not enough support or not enough people, a lot of kids that needed one on ones. So we were like changing diapers on fourth graders that were in regular classrooms, but we're coming into our class and we would have to change a diaper on, like a fourth grader. Like it's insane, yeah.
Dylan :Wait, isn't that supposed to be? Like I didn't even think you'd go to preschool if you couldn't be partied I thought you'd be partied training, I guess. If, like, I don't know if you can maneuver the school system, but I guess so if it's special needs, that kind of but they weren't special needs children. Oh whoa.
Bailey :No, these were regular kids. That's where I was like this is not my job description. Like for one, I was getting beat up, like every single day because I was they hit you, they bite you because they're special needs children, you know, and the higher ups didn't really care to like provide enough support, so that kind of traumatized me.
Dylan :So first of all, you're overwhelmed.
Bailey :Yeah.
Dylan :On top of that, they're a can. It can be aggressive. Yes, very aggressive they don't have the ability to comprehend things.
Bailey :Yeah, oh my God, and they would they run, they just take off running and you just have to chase them down, and the school that I worked for is on a very busy street.
Dylan :Well, what school? Oh, if you don't have to say no, you don't have to say you can give me a little directions. I know the area.
Bailey :Maybe on Jackson Street.
Dylan :Okay, okay, yeah, if you can break that down, yep.
Bailey :Um, but yeah, one kid took off running and this is just on the playground took off running. Of course, it's the day I decided to dress up and wear my cute clogs and this kid takes off running, hits the main road. I'm running with my clogs on and I'm just like, okay, like screw this, I take off my clogs, throw them into the street and I'm running after this kid barefooted.
Bailey :This kid is cracking up laughing the whole time, just like having the time of his life, you know, and I'm over here like, oh my God.
Dylan :Like I'm gonna give.
Bailey :I'm fired, but it's not my fault. I wasn't even his one on one for the day. I don't even know where his one on one was. That's crazy, but yeah, so I got him and that's when I just finally was like what the heck Like, this is crazy. Um, so, yeah, the I I feel like that kind of put like a bad taste in my mouth about teaching because I saw how the school systems worked at that time because beforehand I had never worked in a school and it's kind of like a go into it with an ideology.
Dylan :Yeah, what it should be and the help you can give.
Bailey :And these poor teachers. They were not supported at all. Like I was just an aide, Like I can't even imagine being a teacher and not being supported.
Dylan :I know a lot of teachers that would have to supply their own school supplies for the students yeah. Yeah so that's teacher salary.
Bailey :I kind of like after I did that for two years. So I went through two like school periods of doing that, um, like your terms, and I finally was like, okay, what have I loved my whole entire life?
Dylan :Right.
Bailey :And so, like I sat down with my husband and I was like so I have this idea, because during the summertime they usually take out a certain portion of your check, so you get paid during the summer.
Dylan :Oh wow With the school system. So you earned the money, but they're just giving it to you at a paid time off type of deal.
Bailey :Exactly so um.
Dylan :You're not if you're irresponsible, you still have an ability, exactly, exactly.
Bailey :They set you up for success in that way. I guess that's kind of cool.
Dylan :I always thought it was up to the. I didn't know they did that. Yeah, I thought it was up to you guys to just.
Bailey :I think you can choose to not do it, but I was like yeah, you just take it. So, um yeah, in 2022, that June, I finished my last school term and I told Matteo I was like so I have this idea, what do you think? And um yeah, that's where pretty and pink started. I just kind of was like okay, I am not loving life where I'm at. How am I going to change it? I don't want to just go work for somebody else During the pandemic.
Bailey :Yeah, so this was coming out of the pandemic, so okay 21, 22. Yeah, okay, yeah, so this is coming out, so you spent a little bit of time at that school, yeah, yeah.
Dylan :It was there for a while.
Bailey :Um, honestly, what made me stay was all the people I worked with. They were amazing.
Dylan :Oh, that's cool yeah.
Bailey :I had some great teachers that I worked with so I like they were like, if you leave, then we have no problem. But I was like, oh, you're so right. Like I have to stay. So, yeah, pretty and pink came up because I hated my life like job wise and I didn't want to just go work at Red Bull. For so tiny, there's not much. As a female, there's not a lot of job options unless you want to be at a fast food joint. You want to be a waitress, a hostess or a barista.
Dylan :And right now there's not a job for anybody here. Yeah, there's not a lot.
Bailey :It's a lot of like construction and labor and stuff like that, and so I told him I was like I don't want to do any of that, like what am I going to do?
Dylan :But you want to stay here. Yeah, yeah.
Bailey :Because all of our families in Red.
Dylan :Bull Right, I'm in that. I know that dilemma very well.
Bailey :So hard. So, yeah, I for a while I knew that I wasn't going to stay at the school, like for the last year. I knew like, okay, this is my last year I'm going to put in and then from there I'm going to figure it out. So that June I figured it out and Matteo supported me fully. I don't know why, but he did.
Dylan :Good, and so yeah, he's amazing, so I started online. So you got online.
Bailey :Well, okay, I started with online. Okay, and then?
Dylan :like e-commerce.
Bailey :Like I had my own website, everything. Yeah, it was really cool. My friend Riley she owns the bookstore over here at Turn the Page on Main Street, and so I came with her to go get coffee and I was like, so I have this crazy idea. And she was like, oh, my God, do it, that's awesome. And her family actually invested like $100 into me for my first startup. So that was super cool, yeah, and that day, riley created a website with me.
Dylan :In a day.
Bailey :Yeah, she created a website with me and Instagram Got me like, showed me how to order things wholesale, created a wholesale account with me, like she was literally an angel. I could not have done it without her, because starting a business is a lot of work.
Bailey :Getting the certain permits and stuff like that it's a lot more work than people think. You can't just like start selling stuff that's illegal. So, yeah, riley helped me out a ton and I started off with that $100. I can't remember if it was $100 or like $200 they gave me, but by them investing into me, I was able to go online and purchase like little hoop earrings and stickers and little cute goodie bags and I started selling goodie bags just to like start profit, so I, starting out, invested zero money into my business.
Dylan :Wow, so it came off of a $200 belief in you. Yeah, that somebody just like blessed me with and they're like okay, we believe in you.
Bailey :Here's this $200. That's incredible. So I invested that and that's.
Dylan :I bet that really gave you the confidence to pursue it, oh for sure, and I knew If it was your own money, you'd still be like I can do this, yeah, but when you had someone's not even family, I know, and it was such a big gift.
Bailey :It was her dad that like handed it to me. And like I just was like oh my gosh, like really, and he was just like take it. That is so cool, just very like yeah here, so, yeah, I, my startup was literally just that and I have such a huge family my family is gigantic. So, yeah, I posted online and I was like hey guys, I'm starting a boutique and I didn't know what that meant.
Dylan :You know I was like.
Bailey :I'm just going to be selling stuff that I think is cute, but starting out it was.
Dylan :This store is amazing.
Bailey :This is love yeah.
Dylan :This store is incredible.
Bailey :Thank you and it's so diverse.
Dylan :Like you have a whole shelf of special glass mugs. Yeah, and kind of like with all yeah and then paint like artwork. You've got the clothing store.
Bailey :Oh, it's amazing that I get to like support other small businesses in here. Because a lot of the stuff in here that people love are other small businesses.
Dylan :I should shout that out. It's Leaves and Latte's my.
Bailey :Heidi girl, we actually became besties and we got matching tattoos. No way yeah. We met doing a farmer's market, so it's half a sun.
Dylan :And then she has the other half of my sun. You know what I was thinking? I was like that looks like a slinky, Literally. I was like it's not a rainbow, it's not a rainbow.
Bailey :If I could just it kind of does right. Maybe we'll just get crazy one day and turn it into a slinky. I'll be like listen, dylan said.
Dylan :Yeah, it was like rainbow and I was like wait a minute, there's dots and words, yeah, there's a little more intricate.
Bailey :We did a farmer's market and it was $10 tattoos, and so I actually got ink poisoning, though.
Dylan :And I was throwing up for like two days after.
Bailey :No, I have giant like a giant one right here. I have a small one right here, small one right here, but yeah, ink poisoning. I wouldn't recommend $10 tattoos. I don't think I mean.
Dylan :Right.
Bailey :Do what you must.
Dylan :I don't have the ability to be that spontaneous over permanent things.
Bailey :I probably shouldn't have, because the one on I got this one was $10. She is not cute. My wife has a 10.
Dylan :I don't know, it was like one of those like the tattoo today. And she's got avocado on her body.
Bailey :She got an avocado.
Dylan :Oh my gosh, it's this big and it's just by itself. It reminds me of like the oh, it's avocado. Thanks, that's so fun, it's funny.
Bailey :Yeah, okay, but startup yeah. So then from there my family. Sorry, I always go off on different things.
Dylan :But my family totally supported me.
Bailey :My friends from like high school that were following me supported me, and then I started ordering clothing online through wholesale and learning everything of what I should do Making mistakes.
Dylan :Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Bailey :But the whole time I never invested any of my own money.
Dylan :So all of the, so just the profit kept starting to pay me Exactly and I was like what the heck?
Bailey :And it was like an order, like once a week, but I was like, oh my gosh.
Dylan :Once a week. That's consistent it was consistent.
Bailey :But farmers market that is what literally kicked me off Like. So I quit working at the school June of 2022. Instantly started doing farmers markets June of 2022. And I wasn't scared about money because I had that paycheck that was coming in, oh, in the summer.
Dylan :So I was like whatever, oh, wow.
Bailey :So yeah, so that whole three months so June to August I worked and did farmers markets and Red Bluff and Chico in Lake California and Anderson and Redding everywhere possible there's a lot.
Dylan :There's a lot. I used to do the tour with Julia Fruistand.
Bailey :Oh yeah, julia, she's there, there every single time, every time, all the way up the Dunsmeer. Have you been to that one? No, I haven't been to Dunsmeer Go.
Dylan :It's so cute and it's just everyone knows everybody.
Bailey :And then that's how it feels with the Red Bluff one. Everyone connects really well. The Chico one was definitely my best market because of how big it was.
Dylan :Right, and the age you have the right. The college girls, yeah, and I kept doing the right demographic.
Bailey :I kept doing like every time somebody would come up and be like oh, if you follow me on Instagram, I'll follow you back and then, like, you, get a free sticker. Oh.
Dylan :OK.
Bailey :So that grew my platform a ton and I still am not at like a crazy amount of followers, but starting at zero, you know I was literally just new to the game. So I was like anybody that wants to follow me.
Dylan :I just had to take my, so I created my. I refuse to get on TikTok.
Bailey :Stop it, that's literally, I'm so bad, I'll be making TikToks right here in the window and yesterday I made it. They're always cringy. I know they're cringy, but it's what they want yeah. It's what people want.
Dylan :And my video is I don't even understand. Oh my gosh, I'm like it's. So Show my wife she's like. I'm like I don't even like it, but I, these people do.
Bailey :Yeah, I'm like I don't understand after research, because it's like I had one video pop off on TikTok and I got 12.5 K followers From one video just like exploding. No way, mm, hmm.
Dylan :Wow, I did start one. So I brought that up and said, did, finally, when I reset this, when I reset in December, I started one and I had a good amount of content and stuff not followers on Instagram, but it was my personal page. So I have to restart that.
Bailey :I know, and that's like the the, so I wasted all this content on this page. But it's hard because, like people don't know that this is your business you know, or your podcast or your YouTube channel. So, like you're like, oh well, I'll just post it on my regular.
Dylan :So then people know, and I was half serious, you know, and I was like not fully committed. Yeah. I hadn't committed. And yeah, I had to fully commit and that's kind of like. You know, you had the opportunity to fully commit. I'm still getting that back.
Bailey :Yeah, exactly, and my husband at the time was doing landscaping so he would be off by a certain time, because it's like literally 110 degrees here and it's like horrible for them to work that. So they start super, super early and then they end more in the afternoon. Yeah, three and five Yep, which is my farmer's markets would start set up at three 15, and then start farmer's markets at four.
Bailey :So he was there to help me all the way through, so I wasn't doing by myself. Matteo definitely was helping me with setup because it's like a full pop up you have to bring all your clothing hang. Everything make. We had to like build the make shift janky hangers, like things.
Bailey :Yeah, I was so bad. But yeah, three months in and I randomly went into copper and clay it was a store next door to me and I was talking to her and she was like, oh, your energy is so good, I love your vibe. And I was like, thanks, you know. And she was like, yeah, I've seen you at farmer's markets. And I was like, oh yeah, like I am really popping off. You know, like at that time I thought I was like, you know, didn't even know that this is where my business could lead at all, and she offered me this spot I didn't know that this was her spot and she was like this is three months in.
Dylan :You never know who you're going to meet.
Bailey :Yeah, and so she goes. Well, I'll make you a deal Like you'll only have to pay this X amount and you can just start with half the store and then we'll use the rest for like an art gallery type thing. And I was like heck yeah, you know, even if I just do pop ups because I knew farmer's markets were ending. So yeah, when I first started, I literally had half of the store. Like it's insane, right where there's beams I had a giant curtain.
Dylan :So this was you. Uh-huh, this was it.
Bailey :Oh, wow, and so and even then it was not full, it was very. I look back at pictures I post, I'm like, oh, that's cringy girl, but yeah, that's literally what started it. And from there every single month, even right now, I feel like I continuously, I'm just taking a step every single month and like growing little by little by little.
Dylan :Dude, do you? You said you said Mateo does vlogging and stuff Do you Follow it? Like do you allow, do you film stuff and like let people follow.
Bailey :Yeah, and that's what that's what a lot of my followers and like my customers come from is my Instagram page and my TikTok page, because I do post a lot and I'm very vulnerable on the internet. And that's what people want they want to like be your friend. You know, and when you're buying something from somebody, you want to support that person you know.
Bailey :So I try to make connections with every single customer that comes into the store, make them feel special, and then it makes me feel special when they come back in and they're like I came back in for you.
Dylan :Yeah.
Bailey :I mean half the time they're coming in for.
Dylan :I came in to talk to you, want to come in the first time. Yeah, I was like, just go get your shirt, I'm a girly star, pretty and pink and I know that we're gonna. I know money's gonna disappear.
Bailey :I'm just like I don't want to go just go, do it. His wife is one of my best customers, yeah, so she is a huge free people person.
Dylan :Yes, and not for the clothes, obviously the clothes, but the experience, yes, and making like she literally had a road, a goodbye letter and like, or gave the lady like a farewell card when she moved away and they like had a Vancouver, no where from Florida.
Bailey :Oh, when she was living in Florida.
Dylan :She would go there like that was like her therapist. She'd just go in there. I literally feel that way because I do hair tinsel in here too.
Bailey :Yeah and that up my game, but doing a service for somebody. Yeah they fully are like oh my god, You're my best friend, yeah it's like the secrets that I have on some people around here. I'm just gonna say I'm just gonna, I literally okay.
Dylan :I don't know why.
Bailey :This reminded me of it. But one time I was doing a girl's hair in the window and that's the best lighting and I had. We're right next to the fire department, the police department, I'm doing her hair and I'm like, oh yeah, yeah, we're talking and she goes Is there any way you could like move me into the back area? And I was like, oh, like what's going on? She goes well, have a warrant out for my arrest. Wait what?
Bailey :like the window girl I don't know what to tell you right now. Like I can't physically pick up this chair that's in the floor, like yeah. I don't know what you want me to do. So you know, just fun things like that you meet the greatest.
Dylan :Warring. Yeah, I was like listen, I'll just turn you this way.
Bailey :Yeah, it's crazy.
Dylan :That's why yeah. That's awesome the best of and just like the people, like the fact the storefront you're talking about like clocking the door and stuff after hours.
Bailey :Oh yeah yeah, oh my god, the homeless around here is Very, very hard.
Dylan :They do good, though, to keep them off the streets in the day.
Bailey :They try. I've had some pretty bad experiences where I have had to call the cops, like one time they were shaking my car.
Dylan :I was inside the car wait what they don't be in the same two guys.
Bailey :They like, they think it's funny.
Dylan :I know that they think it's funny because I was talking about my friend Riley.
Bailey :She's on Main Street.
Bailey :Oh yeah and they do the same stuff to her, the same kind of like only prey on her. They do that Over here to me. So we're too younger and she's I think she's a year older. She's 24 and I'm 23. So, yes, but one time I pulled up to the store and I saw them literally in my doorway and I was like, oh, like, so I'm just like on my phone, like I'm calling Mateo, like okay, I don't want to like walk out right now about myself, because one of them is very aggressive and my father-in-law is the fire chief over here. Okay, and so, like, I know, I know the homeless men by their names and I know how their personalities are and stuff like that.
Dylan :Actually, can you know? I know this guy.
Bailey :Yeah, and I was like I do not feel safe doing this. So, um, I Was sitting in my car. They both came up and started shaking my car and they just are like thinking it's the funniest thing ever. So I call the cops and I'm like, hey, can you guys come out and do something, like I'm right across the street. And they were like, well, we would, but we don't have enough people today. So unless they physically have harmed you, we can't do much that's so I was like crap.
Bailey :What do I do? So? I literally just skirt, skirted out of there, almost hit one of the guys cuz so you didn't get out. I didn't even get out, I was smart so I went and I and they were like yelling pretty vulgar things at me and stuff.
Dylan :So I went to the fire department.
Bailey :Yeah, so I went to the fire department to go get my father-in-law and I walk in there and they're like, what are you doing? And I was like I'm looking for Matt, you know. And they're like, oh, he's not here. And I was like, okay. And they're like, well, what's going on? So I told them I get a gang of probably seven firefighters that walk over here and chew these guys out. And this was probably like five months ago.
Dylan :No, I've had a problem.
Bailey :Yeah, and I have not had a problem since those seven firefighters came over and had a little talk into With the boys, okay, so that was really cool.
Dylan :So do that immediately. Yes, yes.
Bailey :Literally could just go get a firefighter. But yeah, we do have a lot of homeless people over here. Pretty often, like every single day, there's somebody. I'm especially because I have a trash can right outside of my building. Mm-hmm, they're always.
Dylan :I didn't even put that together.
Bailey :That's literally their main spot. It's crazy, though, that sucks yeah.
Dylan :Man. I have so many. I lived in Portland and I've worked there and I Got one story. There's this guy, so we're, I'm an iron worker. I don't know. She told you that yeah so we're downtown building a high-rise and we're on the street and we got the street blocked off. I'm unloading this truck and so I'm watching my spotter ahead. I have giant pieces of steel on the forks in traffic and so I'm, like six, extremely intently focused on him and his hand signals.
Dylan :Uh-huh and you don't do anything like as an operator. You don't have a brain. That's how we say it, like you don't have a brain.
Bailey :This is your brain you have your job, you are doing the job you do what everything outside of that.
Dylan :Yeah, the spotter tells you what to do. If you do something he does not say, now it's your fault. So if you hurt somebody, break, damage things, you know whatever goes wrong, as long as you listen to him. Yeah it is not your fault. So that's the concept is like don't think you're gonna take initiative.
Dylan :Yeah your job is if he doesn't give you a signal, you don't fucking move. Yeah, and so I'm watching him and all of a sudden there's several cop cars roll up, block the the actual intersection, come at me, guns drawn and I've had a couple interactions with the law before so I was like so they go right past and the other intersections blocked off like three, three cop cars on each side, foot patrol, bicycle patrol motorcycle patrol, probably 15, 20 cops and get this guy Portland. Yeah, they arrest this guy. I bend him over.
Bailey :Everyone's watching. Yeah, the one I just unloaded was he like trying to get up on there?
Dylan :No. So he chased him down six city blocks. Oh my, this guy must have been just cracked out of his mind. Superhuman speed.
Bailey :I will get away. He was running.
Dylan :That was wild. That's Guns. I mean a lot of cops. And then another guy shows up to our job. He's yelling at us. We're like probably 15 feet, 20 feet in the air in a man basket. He's like yelling at my one of my guys and he's like you stole my backpack. This guy's like such a hard ass. He's a hard ass.
Bailey :They get in this yelling match 20 feet in vertical and this guy down here literally, is probably cracked out in drugs, does not?
Dylan :have a fucking backpack. No, no.
Bailey :He just wants that backpack.
Dylan :And then somehow they get all the way to the top. This is a 28 story building to the top the.
Bailey :Okay, I was like what they tagged the penthouse Elevator shaft.
Dylan :So they had to climb the actual tower crane at one point, so they could probably have jumped the fence, gone up to like the 20th floor and then they would have to get outside the building and we have chain link around that like the axe so no one can access the tower crane on the floors. Yeah so they had to like get around that, climb the lattice and then get inside of it and get in the ladder.
Dylan :All the way just to graffiti the raisey yeah that's they could take that level of initiative to do something else they got it. They're so smart, some of them.
Bailey :Yeah, it's true. It's like. It's so true. Especially, there are some of the homeless people around here that when I see them when they're not on drugs because they can't afford drugs, all the time when I see them around here, I'll be like dude, you're a regular human. You know like you have feelings, like you're not normal, but like you're not as weird as I portrayed you to be.
Dylan :You know or as you portrayed you to be During your little episode.
Bailey :Yeah, I had one guy who has literally bugged me and harassed me the whole time I've been here. Around Christmas time he came in and was like hey, bailey. I was like sir, you know my name? Okay, you know. And he's like just talking to me. He's like oh, did you lose one? He was like oh well, I just came in here to buy something for my girlfriend and I was like okay. You know this guy bugs me all the time, like can.
Dylan :I have some money.
Bailey :You know, can I have coffee? He always asked for pancakes. He always wants pancakes. I'm like, sir, do I look like I Pancakes? I would be eating them Every single time. But yeah, he came in here. I totally I'm being nice because, like I love people, I'm a people person, but I'm like being aware, like okay, I'm just gonna make sure he's not grabbing things, you know, not touching things. But he came in here on a mission. He was like I want this necklace that was in the window.
Dylan :I love that so you're asking you for money every other day.
Bailey :He's over here like buying all this stuff and I'm like. I was like I don't know. The whole time I was like, okay, you know, like grabbing it all, and I'm like, oh my god, you're such a good boyfriend, she's gonna love this. And then I ring them up and I'm like, okay, here it goes, you know, and I'm like okay your total is 127.
Bailey :Like it was, it was a lot of money. And he just goes okay, pulls out a fat wad of hundreds and just like puts it on the counter and I'm like sick, okay, and so I'm like doing my thing, give him back his change and he's like okay, bye Bailey, have a great day. Leaves like we're besties. Same day and goes oh, I also wanted this. Buys another thing and then leaves.
Dylan :What a weird experience.
Bailey :I he's, I see him now, although he like not fucked up?
Dylan :Yeah, he was acting normal.
Bailey :He was being so polite, like how many of these guys?
Dylan :really do, maybe they're. Yeah, it was how do you get there?
Bailey :I've heard some different stories about this one guy and it's also it's like really sad, but then at the same time he's like you want to be, like oh well, he's like human, you know. But like at the same time he does crazy fucked up shit.
Dylan :Yeah.
Bailey :But I don't know the real stories so I just hear everybody talks around here. The red bluff is very tiny town.
Dylan :It's a good thing that was like one of the best things to get away. Yes now honestly, like I Know it's so reclusive, but I didn't really tell a lot of people. I got back in town and then I go to go to the stores.
Bailey :It's it because you know how it is. Oh for sure, what's he?
Dylan :doing here?
Bailey :Oh, I want to explain everything you have to have this cool, amazing life story of where you've been and what you've been doing.
Dylan :And then time for that. You're just like buy some groceries, yeah, let me grab my stuff and go. I had developed like this social anxiety that I never had before of, like, not wanting to go to the grocery store.
Bailey :Everybody knows everybody. One person sees you, then they go. Oh, did you know Dylan's back in town.
Dylan :So, like my first two weeks, I ran into four people at Walmart, that's motherfucker, and that's on like a slow day. That's it, walmart. Yeah, usually it's like seven or eight one time I went to the weed store and I saw two people I just didn't want to talk to. It's not that I didn't want them seeing me there and I just didn't want to be like let's spend 30 minutes.
Bailey :Yeah talking.
Dylan :I have shit to do. I got a kid so I managed this little room, like you said, half of your shop really. The storefront is really small. Yeah, they didn't see me. You're just like moving your hands around the whole time. Oh, that's over here. Yeah, you know, looking at the product, that is so funny Head down glance. Yeah, they were doing the same thing, I don't know.
Bailey :I totally know what you're talking about, though, but I felt like when I moved away, when I moved to Kansas, um, I loved being somewhere else, because when I did come home All of like seeing my friends and family again it felt like it was so much more real and the connection was so much more, because you just want to be around them all this time.
Bailey :You know, and now that I'm living back home I barely see my family and like on special occasions or like stuff like that, but we don't like hang out and it kept me out of the like, uh, the drama, like yeah, I don't want to be involved in the drama of like everyone.
Dylan :Yeah, and like you said, you get uh a lot, like you're like the second therapist. Yeah retail therapy is real. It's real but yeah, personal family, I was like so when I would see him? You know it's valuable times. You don't have to get absorbed in that, yeah it's like a courtesy of like well, I just want to know about what you're doing.
Bailey :Tell me all the good in life.
Dylan :Yeah, what they've been doing, you know and yeah, so it's kind of that is true. Yeah, I tell me a lot.
Bailey :I was like I, I like miss having that feeling of when you come back home from not seeing somebody for so long and you're just like, oh my gosh, I missed you. And then you just like want to spend every second with that person, you know. But it's now, we're home, we're just like hang out. See you next Christmas. Like it's not a big deal.
Dylan :You get involved. You get so wrapped up in the daily right.
Bailey :Yeah, because it's just life.
Dylan :You got a lot going on. You got to deal with inventory, yep. Work doesn't stop when the sign goes up.
Bailey :My instagram posts are constantly like what am I gonna post next?
Dylan :Yeah, I mean never and it's all consuming really.
Bailey :Oh it is, it's so consuming.
Dylan :Oh, they made all this money. I'm like no.
Bailey :I know what it takes to do this like I was telling you earlier, 15 second.
Dylan :Uh, real or tiktok or short or whatever.
Bailey :So I'm gonna spend two hours doing it, and then you got to get it right and then, by the time you're done You've watched it so many times You're like I fucking hate this.
Dylan :Yes, yes.
Bailey :Is anybody gonna like this?
Dylan :Like what am I doing? Oh, my gosh. Yeah especially with my type of content, my wife's like um Uh.
Bailey :That's like Mateo with me. I mean he's like into bodybuilding and stuff and I'm like so do you like this dress You're not getting any affirmations like reassurance.
Dylan :You're like, if you think it's good, it's.
Bailey :He's always like oh wow.
Dylan :No idea. I'm like I don't know why I asked. That's why I'm like Thanks for looking, that's him with his like workout stuff.
Bailey :He's like, oh yeah, yeah, I'm like uh, huh and um, so yeah and um.
Dylan :So you grew up with a lot of siblings. What?
Bailey :was that? Yes, I have three.
Dylan :I only was raised with one.
Bailey :Oh.
Dylan :Yeah, so what's that?
Bailey :I have eight brothers and one sister. So I have I always say I have two moms and two dads. So I got my step parents and then I have, like, my real parents, and my real parents got divorced when I was really little. So, my mom had a baby. Uh, when she was younger, before she had she even met my dad. So I had a sister right off the back. So my brother Darren's my only biological, full, full-blooded brother like Lena is my biological sister.
Bailey :We're not, yeah, we're me and Lena are half, and then me and Darren are full.
Dylan :That's cool. I don't have any fools, really at all.
Bailey :Darren, I swear he just wants to be literally me. He's he better be watching this and I agree to this. No he's older than me, so everybody's always like oh, I can totally tell you guys are siblings by your mannerisms. I'm like oh, he learned it from me.
Dylan :Yeah, that was me first.
Bailey :Yeah, I know, but um, my, my dad got married pretty quickly after my mom and him split up and um so how old were you?
Dylan :I was two.
Bailey :I was two when they split up and um, I love my stepmom to death. She's amazing. She's always been like Like another mom, so that was shortly after you said yeah, so you're still really little. Yeah, I was. I was two years old, so she's been in my life like my whole life. But they started having kids pretty quickly.
Dylan :Oh, okay, yeah, my dad. I call my stepdad my dad, but he's same. Yeah, since I was a year old, I call her my um.
Bailey :I made up my own word for her. She's my smom or my smama, so I just add a little s for the step, but yeah, she she's been in my life my whole entire life. And then they had my three little brothers, and then my dad had this that's so many kids yeah.
Bailey :Yeah, and it doesn't even. It gets crazier. So then, um, my dad had this uh Son well, he's not his son. My dad like adopted him, kind of, when I was little. He was like a teenager at that time, but I grew up like knowing that he was my brother. You know, Like that's your brother, so um, I include him in my eight brothers.
Dylan :But um, yeah, and then.
Bailey :Four years old, my mom got married to my stepdad. Uh-huh freddy and um. He had three boys and that was Aaron, cody and Sean. So that added to the brothers, and then I already had Darren. So all together I have eight brothers now and as one single sister. Wow, one sister, eight brothers and Lena's, nine years older than me, my sister.
Dylan :Oh, so that's a big one.
Bailey :Yeah, it was a big difference. But now that we're adults, we're besties?
Dylan :Oh, okay, yeah, she comes and stays. She lives, especially growing up. There's cultural differences. Yeah you're in different eras of culture, for sure.
Bailey :Yeah, she definitely hated me when I was little. I remember her being like of course she's like 18 and I'm like, oh my gosh, Just little, tiny little baby and trying to go in her room. Yeah, like trying to go in her dark purple room and she'd just be like get out, you know? Oh, it was dark purple like my mom. Really, let us express ourselves.
Dylan :That's cool.
Bailey :What any like any color we wanted out of lime green uh trim boards. Oh my gosh, I love that I had a lime green curtains and Cody would call it my Easter egg room Because I had lime green curtains and then a purple pink, blue and it was. It was crazy. It was a lot purple pink and blue, you really, guys, really express yourself express yourself.
Bailey :But yeah, yeah, so I had. I have eight brothers and one sister which, honestly, I love so much. I could not imagine being an only child and you grew up like pretty much an only child.
Dylan :Well, I had my sister wear a year and a half part, so okay that's not bad.
Bailey :I have my sister in the whole yeah. Yeah, that's like Darren he's. I think he's 19 months older than me, something like that.
Dylan :Yeah, we're. It's about like that, like right now You're apart. Yeah and then out my birthday's in february, same day, actually different fathers day same day, not the month same day. Okay, so the 27th Is both of our birthdays just one is december and I'm in february, and then my mom and stepdad are both the 15th.
Bailey :Oh, wow, that's so crazy. And then it's like uh, coincidence.
Dylan :But then you have children and you guys create a second child with new blood On the same date.
Bailey :That's so crazy. What are the?
Dylan :odds. You got 31 of them and you picked the same.
Bailey :They were really counting down side nine months from now.
Dylan :I almost had uh shared a birthday with my great-grandma by two hours.
Bailey :I missed it. Oh, that's so crazy. Was she alive when you were born? Yeah, oh, that would have been so special, oh yeah, she was cool.
Dylan :Uh, she died when I was Like D-Danger.
Bailey :Really yeah, maybe 12 or so Do you have like grandparents, like?
Dylan :Oh, so we have a lot.
Bailey :Really.
Dylan :I have personally. My daughter has an incredible amount like over 10. She still has her great great, she has a great great. She has three great greats actually Two grandparents, two grandpas. No, so, yeah, great, great. So fourth, yeah, so she has two grandpas and a grandma, and the grandma is 103 on the 34, or on the first.
Bailey :What? Yeah, yeah, yeah. What is she eating a day?
Dylan :Excuse me, she looks like she's 80.
Bailey :Like she looks great she's not moisturizer.
Dylan :She's Sicilian, right from Sicily.
Bailey :Like her name's in the book on Ellis Island.
Dylan :I don't know. I don't know. You can't remember I've never met her.
Bailey :Oh really.
Dylan :She lives in the middle of Nebraska.
Bailey :Oh, and I know nobody owned a Nebraska.
Dylan :We're going to go up to Minnesota and visit and then just drive down. It's so expensive because no one goes.
Bailey :Yeah. Is she on your side of the family, then, or Alexis?
Dylan :No, alexis, alexis side, so all my family's here.
Bailey :OK.
Dylan :Obviously my biological dad. That's a lie. Half my family's in Florida.
Bailey :Half your family's in Florida, yeah.
Dylan :But, and then my dad was born in the Bahamas, so I have a whole other sect of family and they're like they own a. They like went, they were pirates, they went to war with Queen. Elizabeth Like they got her crazy concede and sign away like the island to them. So, colonial shit, that's OK.
Bailey :Me and Mateo have recently been like because I saw that pirates are coming back.
Dylan :Oh, yeah, it's a thing.
Bailey :And like people don't think about it. I mean, it's not what you're thinking of like swords and stuff.
Dylan :But we were recently talking about, like pirates Machina yeah, I know, rocket launchers.
Bailey :And then last night we were like, let's watch some Scooby-Doo. And we put on Scooby-Doo and it was a pirates one and I was like, why are pirates in my life right now, like I'm consistently thinking about pirates?
Dylan :Manifesting pirates.
Bailey :I know I'm going to turn into a pirate. That's my next, my next job.
Dylan :Yeah, that was a wild, wild thing to learn. I just learned that last 10 years. That is so sick, it's so cool to like learn that kind of stuff about your family Well, and then, like the way it works is like it's still like colonial shit, like I'm the first blood, so that'll be my part of the island. I'll inherit that regardless of being a citizen or whatever, but first blood. So my uncle it's. He inherited it and then it'll go to my dad and then it'll be mine.
Bailey :And I was like wait what. Wait. So how does that work? Do they just like, do you want this or do you not Like?
Dylan :what Do you?
Bailey :sign your rights away if you don't live there or something no so you just get it, you just inherit it.
Dylan :sign the deed just like a normal inheritance.
Bailey :Wow.
Dylan :And then I have a lot of family out there on different islands, but this one's on Long Island and it's 90 miles long, four miles wide. So on the house, our house, it's two stories with a wrap round balcony and you can see the ocean on both sides.
Bailey :Wow, yeah, how's your like close family that you are close with, been there?
Dylan :Yeah, so my dad goes because your uncle owns it right now. Yeah, so he doesn't go that often. It's just the way it worked Like so that family out there still manages, takes care of everything. It's just his OK. So it's not even something that you would ever like sell or anything, your uncle not have any kids?
Bailey :No, oh, so that's what happens.
Dylan :He's like a six year old bachelor Wow.
Bailey :So it'll go to your dad and then, when your dad passes. You're the first born. Because of that, your first born, so it'll go to you and then it'll go to Felicity.
Dylan :No, I have a brother.
Bailey :It's only males.
Dylan :It's straight up like excuse me, yeah, no, I was like colonial shit. Oh my gosh, that's crazy. Marry off your daughter type of era. Yeah, sorry, I missed that part. Well, I'm going to have a man, yeah, first born male.
Bailey :Wow, so if you passed away owning it? Your brother would just have it.
Dylan :But if you had a son, yeah, would it go to your son Probably instead of your brother. I don't know, it's interesting.
Bailey :I think it probably would, maybe because the only reason is now yours, the only reason your yeah so it went to exactly so it went to my uncle because he was first born. Yeah, he didn't have kids, children, then it would go to his first.
Dylan :Getting to the second, because it's just like straight up, like being a king.
Bailey :Yeah.
Dylan :That second born never gets it. That's why they murder the first born.
Bailey :You better be telling Alexa girl, we got to get on it, so we want to keep it in the family.
Dylan :So COVID hit. I had the money to go and COVID hit. I was like fuck and they didn't open up that border for a while, and a couple like 22, I think. Without a vaccine, and so they might still require I don't know but so that's a plan to take them out there. It's been 10 years, 2013.
Bailey :Wow, that's crazy I guess almost 11 now.
Dylan :That's so crazy, but you'll eventually inherit that house, the property, and so I can get my dad's a dual citizen, so I can become a dual citizen. So you can't unless you were born there, but if your father or mother, if one of your parents, was born there, now you can. So now they're citizens of the Bahamas.
Bailey :So your dad was born there, so you can get it would be dual citizenship. Yes.
Dylan :So I can also spend the you know, get the lawyer to do the thing A couple thousand.
Bailey :And then is that something you renew consistently? Stay a citizen no no, no.
Dylan :Once you got you know it's like getting a social you got.
Bailey :You have to renew your passport.
Dylan :But then you do that during hurricane. It's fucked up, but during hurricane season, if there's a lot of turmoil and destruction, it really subs. It's still a providence of America.
Bailey :Yeah.
Dylan :So it's like Puerto Rico it's not America, but it's a problem.
Bailey :Yeah.
Dylan :Yeah, and so they have their own currency. But it's straight across and you'll get a huge subsidy from America on lumber and material.
Bailey :So that's when you go build a new house and stuff, yeah, and then there when Irma hit I was in Florida for that.
Dylan :That was wild. It took my bedroom out that. I was staying in when I went there. The one not my bedroom, but the room I was in when I stayed there. There was just a hole in the oh my God, that's crazy. And they were in the house downstairs under the stairwell hiding.
Bailey :I'm like was it like a bunker type thing?
Dylan :No, just second story stair, just under the stairs to the second floor.
Bailey :I know, and was your room.
Dylan :second story yeah, yeah, this is on the top in the corner, and because they're on the little like hill and there it's only four miles wide. Yeah it just that was like a beacon, like having a life house, house. Yeah, yeah.
Bailey :Yeah.
Dylan :And I'm not sure, like I said, that's, it's ours by blood and right, but they, we have family that live there. So, that's not the island. It's like you know, if you're from Red Bluff, you've moved to Redding for work. You know what I mean. So they all move to the big island. Essentially, Nassau is the big island, the resorts and commercial island, but our family's from this little island, little, tiny baby one yeah.
Dylan :And so it's so small. They're like my sister asked for a chicken sandwich. Like we don't get chicken till Wednesday, it'll be on the boat. I was like whoa that is so funny, but we had the NBA finals, my. God, I know it's around the middle I got lost in the Bahamas. Ok, so I've never traveled internationally, just out of high school.
Bailey :Yeah right out of high school, just graduated like two weeks before You're mine, you're like oh shit, I know what I'm doing, yeah, and so if you can drink at 18.
Dylan :And you really, you really suck your hatchet and I was a week out of high school and I go down there and they're like so on a different time, like time doesn't exist in the islands.
Bailey :And so.
Dylan :I get down there to Nassau and I got to connect to this other one on a little little grasshopper plane, just a little quad like this tiny little four seater, and I think it held 20 people, maybe 30 that was the same thing with Kansas.
Bailey :Really, to get to where we live, yeah.
Dylan :So I tried to sleep, so I was like I'm just gonna try, as it's like shaking and rumbling. They're like, hey, instead of a two hour layover, we have this plane leaving. Do you want to hop on it? It's going the same place. I was like, yeah, okay, so they print me out a new ticket. Security, what security exactly.
Bailey :Oh my god 9-11 and which.
Dylan :I don't know what that was like. I was barely.
Dylan :Yeah but I've heard it was nice, yeah, freedom. So you get down there and they put me on a plane and you know, it'll tell you, like it just said NASA to Long Island. Well, there was a connecting flight and the time was the same. So it was one hour and a half NASA Long Island and then the new one was hour and a half NASA Long Island, just a different time. Okay, I was like okay, just switch. And they didn't say all connects, it's so stay on the plane we end up?
Dylan :Yeah, they didn't say that. And then when I got there, so I wake up, and wake up like okay, and they didn't say, like those, continuing on, please stay because it's such a tiny plane.
Bailey :They're just.
Dylan :Everyone's probably an islander and this is I'm like what? So I get off and my bags never come. And I thought, since Salvador was just the name of the airport, right, I'm like, oh, that must be the airport name. So I'm like, oh, can you call the other airport?
Bailey :Yeah, are they there.
Dylan :They don't have a line that goes outside the fucking island.
Bailey :Oh, I'm like wait, wait, wait, wait, my god.
Dylan :You guys are all airlines and you can't talk to the other ones that I just came from nope, nope, they can't, so I had to use roaming hours and shit.
Bailey :Were you able to get on a flight that night?
Dylan :No, so they're like we don't have another plane coming for three days.
Bailey :And because technically it was your bad. Yeah, probably didn't have to pay for your hotel.
Dylan :Well, luckily we have people in high power. Okay, right we are founding members of this island, these islands. That's my dad makes a couple calls, gets a hold people in DC and Next thing, you know, they got me all figured out and I got a plane coming in three days to get me there. So my back show up my bag, yeah.
Bailey :So I'm like what do I do for three days?
Dylan :So now I knew we're going like backwards. Yeah, I was like, but I can't call the airport. They are the airport and they can't call the airport that connected from their airport or their flight connects from San Salvador to Long Island and they can't tell them like hey, the plane on its way.
Bailey :What that's so crazy.
Dylan :Oh, I get there, I stay at this place called Club Med and it's like a resort, it's like they're around the world. I don't know, I do, I'm not an adult. Yeah, I'm like okay, but it would be like a timeshare type deal in Mexico or whatever.
Bailey :Okay, so I get, there it's 80 a night, that ain't shit and it's direct currency.
Dylan :right, there's no exchange, it's just same value, awesome, so I'm like oh, what am I getting for 80? And? I at least hope they have a fucking idiot. Yeah, and I was really just praying for air conditioner. Yeah, I got. There is a full all-inclusive resort, snorkeling all included.
Bailey :I got and then they felt that your best life for three days, the best mistake I ever made. Then I hope I make that mistake.
Dylan :They all felt bad for me and it was a French week and so what is French week? They have weeks, so they have people that are. A lot of Canadians work there bilingual, and so they have French week. They'll bring in People, they'll make sure all their staff speaks French and then, so I can't talk to anybody, right.
Bailey :I can only talk to the people that work there because they all speak French. That is so crazy.
Dylan :Yeah, that was cool and they switched weeks. So then they have like America and Britain, and you know that switch probably when you're looking they're like make sure you book On this.
Bailey :yeah well, they don't need this language, they don't we?
Dylan :have. Yeah, you'd probably have to select your language and it give you select the date, yeah, yeah so that was wild. And then the airport in Nassau. Speaking of pirates, Uh-huh. They leave the lights off. So unless they have a plane coming in, they shut all the runway lights off.
Bailey :So, as they're coming to the airport, so they don't have consistent planes. Yeah, like I said, every yeah, three days yeah and so, and it's not a tourist island, it's a local island and my, my aunt and uncle.
Dylan :There were 95 that lived their whole life On that island and so crazy so I Get there in the, I'm like that's weird. They, pirates, will come in and planes, and if the lights are on they can find the runway, so they shut them off. As soon as the plane lands, shut them off. There's a higher. So they're yeah, so they're calling, they're like, all right, we're about the land and they'll turn the runway on and then they shut it off.
Bailey :Then you're like oh no, I was wrong.
Dylan :We get ready to leave and I got to catch my flight. My dad's like oh, we got to get there like three and a half hours early For they shut the runway or they're like they might just leave. They did. We left an hour and a half early.
Bailey :Like nobody was there.
Dylan :I think we got enough people. They just took off my gosh. The plane looks full enough and we just left our.
Bailey :Yeah, so you guys were stuck there again.
Dylan :No, no, no, this went smooth. But I was just amazed, that's why we got there so early.
Bailey :I was just like just, I didn't leave him. Oh no, who would?
Dylan :leave early. Yeah okay, the plan is ever left early, always late. You know no one's leaving, or right on time. Like you leave early, or if you do it's 10 minutes, you don't check in early.
Bailey :Especially for a tiny airport like you don't have security to go through. It's like going to Red Bluff, yeah it's like going to Red Bluff.
Dylan :I'm like why would you show up?
Bailey :early. You're just gonna walk in get your yeah, they need a security at this yeah.
Dylan :So yeah, I learned a lot. Wow, that is. That was very crazy, my only experience of like I recently went to Cancun.
Bailey :This last July, parents surprised us and took us on a family vacation. Wow which is so crazy that she, his mom, was like Either you can have Christmas presents for the next five years or we can take you on a family vacation to Cancun. That's a good deal. I was like Cancun and His little brothers was like we thought they weren't getting gifts and I was like Don't bring it up.
Dylan :I didn't get it, yeah.
Bailey :I'm like no, no, no, no. But yeah, we went to Cancun. It was amazing, but, like you said, when we got there, it's so humid. And we were in a resort the after the first day. Sorry, it's all good the floor is so disgusting also, but the first day we were there perfect, everything went super smooth. Second day we went during like tsunami.
Dylan :Hurricane, hurricane. Well, mexico, I think it's an ames, I don't know which one, but yeah, um, I don't know.
Bailey :Either way, they're not good all of their power, all of their AC. So we were there for you were without. And we were there for, I think, 10 days being in the room I have AC at all and their whole trip, the whole trip. It was so disgusting I Made Mateo sleep in a separate bed than me.
Dylan :Yeah, yeah, and you're not sleeping with any sheets or nothing, You're just dying and just drenched in sweat and how do you? Did you even sleep?
Bailey :Oh my god, no, at one point we just went outside and slept and tried to sleep in the chairs.
Dylan :Catch a breeze.
Bailey :Hopefully yeah, because it was just so hot and they were like shutting down their pools at like eight o'clock at night, like oh, no one is allowed to be out because they don't have lifeguards. And I'm like, no, we have no AC.
Dylan :I'm getting in this bowl, I'll sign a liability waiver, dude like seriously I'm here on a resort.
Bailey :I want to go swimming in Midnight and it was so hot like oh my gosh, but we did it. So many cool amazing things like while we were there and that was my first time like ever Using a passport- or anything like that, and so I was just so amazing to me, but we also. While we were there, his mom got this great idea to take us swimming with sharks whoa and not like a cage.
Bailey :Right, it's like really they get in the water tiny boat you go for like an hour and a half into the ocean and they're like oh, I see all these other boats though.
Dylan :We'll go there must be sharks.
Bailey :And then they're like, okay, throw you in. And Then you're just like where's the shark?
Dylan :and they dunk your head under so you know how to get a pool after eight. But we're gonna feed you to the shark, to the sharks, it's fine and hold you down.
Bailey :But the whole time we were there like on the boat. It was this tiny little boat. It started, the weather was changing and there were like this was July. So they were like speaking over the radio. You can't understand anything. They're saying, you know, and I'm just like, oh, and Mateo's mom gets so sick, she's like puking her guts out then.
Dylan :From seasickness.
Bailey :Yeah, cuz we're in this tiny little boat and we're with this other family. The whole other family starts puking all of them and then it's really that. So the water choppy and the it looked like clouds were coming in, the water was getting more choppy and stuff.
Dylan :So by the time we got you like, are we supposed to be out?
Bailey :here, right. And so, by the time we get to the spot where we're supposed to jump in with the sharks, um Mateo and his little brother Ryan were the only ones who had not puked their guts out the whole way. I was so sick, like everybody was just so sick, and we even have these little patches you put on like your ear, like behind your ear, that's supposed to make you yeah, it's supposed to like. You're not supposed to get nauseous, or something.
Bailey :Wow did not work. So in the end, I think Mateo ended up swimming with the sharks, his little brother Ryan, and then, even though his dad was throwing up, and his Other little brother. They still jumped in because, like one other chance are you?
Dylan :gonna get might feel better.
Bailey :Honestly yeah, because I was fine up until we stopped moving.
Dylan :Oh, and then it was just so bad.
Bailey :And that's when I started and I was like I cannot, I'm literally.
Dylan :Think probably immune to that from really. I've never been out the deep sea like that we did. We did something like that in the Bahamas yeah, actually with sharks huh. But I'll tell you about that. But we grew up on I grew up on the houseboat and we had a little one yeah, and see a lot of ways on a boat before and then you're sleeping in the boat. Yeah, you know after we got.
Bailey :Well, they ended up leaving early because half of us couldn't even swim because we were puking so much.
Dylan :So we were just got their money.
Bailey :They're like but then they're supposed to take you to this like exclusive island, like a little farther out. Yeah and you're supposed to have this nice lunch and like and drew yourself on the beach for like a couple hours. Then you get back on the boat and go, but everyone is just like puking their guts out, and so they were like we're just gonna take you guys back. The guy literally the guy like the Fisherman.
Dylan :I mean, like this is not the seat, but they need that.
Bailey :Fisherman has this like sandwich and he's like does anybody want to split this sandwich with me? Mateo does. Yeah, I got a stomach but I was eating this man's lunch, but as we're going back, it starts pouring rain and everything and we finally get.
Dylan :Yeah, and we finally get back and it feel good though, because the humidity yeah, and I.
Bailey :Yeah, I'm pretty sure I got sun poisoning from this trip. I still have scars all over my leg. It's insane. Like it didn't blister, it turns like bruises and I it looks like I bruises all over my leg, but it's only, it's from. I've had it, so she'll lie, don't worry, my in-laws are like that's nurses and EMT, so I'm sure they looked at it.
Bailey :But so, yeah, we get in the car and our tour guide is on the phone. He's like oh no and stuff. And we're like what happened? And he's like good thing we didn't go to that island, because all those other boats that were out there went to the island and they're stuck out there and we don't know for how long, because the storm that just came in and we were like no, and that's the storm that took out our AC for the whole week.
Dylan :Yeah, good thing. Oh my gosh.
Bailey :If so, yeah, he's like you guys. I don't know where you would have stayed, like yeah, so that was crazy if it doesn't get any worse, yeah, so we're all just like puking. I guess that was fun.
Dylan :Good thing you puked.
Bailey :Yeah.
Dylan :I never wished for sickness but it hit us good. We did. We did nurse sharks very slow.
Bailey :Yeah, I can't remember what kind of sharks.
Dylan :They'll still get you, but they're very Doth's like a little nibble.
Bailey :It's a little nibble, not the full arm, so you know what they say.
Dylan :Right, like sharks have to keep moving. Oh yes so these sharks sleep.
Bailey :I was always told sharks don't sleep.
Dylan :They catch on low tide they catch the reef. So on low tide they sit right in the tide and the water moves for them.
Bailey :So they don't have to move that would be me as a shark, lazy shark.
Dylan :There's like ten sharks and they're black, real black, and there's some were big. So we wrestled one up to the they're sleeping. So we went. He was like no, do it, little sister do it first the yeah, I was like he did it with her, and then I was like okay. And so they just pulled them up. We didn't like beach them, we just pulled them up and then let them back. Uh-huh, let's slimy and like that's so crazy.
Dylan :And there was a but you, and it was not like an hour, but we had to catch it. Leave right now, right. Uh-huh, literally, it's a time otherwise the tide, you'll say, you'll fucking. You know, run around you'll run around because of the tide, so you have to hit these canals that are in the ocean. This is in the Bahamas, yeah hit these canals because the water is not deep. Yeah, all Caribbean, it's the right. So you have to hit these canals and only he knows, he's the guide, he's the fisherman.
Bailey :So he's like back of his hand.
Dylan :Yeah, he could write a map, no, he could really write a map and and so we're out there and he takes us out there. So he prepared this bowl of like vegetables and just like a salad mix, with nothing. It just that I was like conch the shell that you hear the pink one that can hear the ocean. Yeah, that's what you eat in the Bahamas, and so it's maybe fourth. It's not very deep and eight feet at the most, so you can see it so we got conch fishing and he brought the salad.
Dylan :So we I went and got my own conch. He had a hammer, yeah, in the salad. So he had a hammer and he cracked the spiral tip. You crack that. You pull them out. Wow, chopped it up, diced it, put it in the salad and we ate the what we caught right there, fishermen giving us weird crap on the freaking boat.
Dylan :I thought it was yeah, it was good, but yeah it was weird. And then at the bar I told you where we'd watch. It's literally a bar with a little pier out in the water and and this is on the island that you, yeah, your family's like from actual, okay, long island the one where we're from, and he has a little reef, little rock reef, where the conch come in, can't get out, and it's like they come in with the tide and so it kind of catches them for that is so sad and then we had my aunt uncle's house.
Dylan :They had a low tide card table in the water cemented into the ocean yeah, yeah, yeah with an umbrella. Yeah, just to fold it like not folding, like the white chair, the white chair card table, yeah, just in the ocean, like you know, it's fine, it's concrete today and I'll see you tomorrow.
Bailey :So you just sitting out there drinking beer, smoking cigars in the water on a table's dry and is it like, always hot, like when I was in Cancun, the water was always warm yeah it's like always warm as soon as you said pull, I was like that didn't help no, no, but literally just wanted to be wet and into.
Bailey :It's like right after you turn the hot tub off so yeah, that was, that was the coolest trip I've been on, that's cool, that was like recent so very fresh yeah, and then we went to like Sonotase and they're like underground rivers and stuff. Yeah, and it was like cave diving, but like not extreme cave diving you know, like you had to wear, like hard hats, and like you had yeah and, like you had, that's kind of hard the caves are like pitch black and you have little flashlights on and then hardcore.
Bailey :I mean, I'm not like deep diving. I mean, there was some stuff. You like climb up, and then you have to like, jump off this cliff and hopefully it was like a cliff, cliff, but it was like for me, I'm like for 10. Okay, it was a cliff, and so you're just like oh, I hope like there's no like giant sharks in here you know, but there's like of course, it's all freshwater, it's not like actual sharks, but like it's.
Bailey :It's so deep, it's hundreds and hundreds of feet below you and you're like shining this flashlight and it's crystal clear, you know, and it's just beautiful and but everything around you is pitch black and set for this was this on the east side, cancun's on the east, I think yeah, I think so. On the golf I think it's towards the Gulf.
Dylan :Yes, it is it's so funny you're saying this like there's a lot of very similar things with the Baham. Bahamas, like they have a place called well.
Bailey :Actually, my family owns one of the caves it's like the largest cave out there and it's either they, either own it or one of their friends own it yeah like you know there's how many people there, but it's all private land thing ever was the cave diving and like the doing the sonotais and like what they were meant for was back in the day the Mayans, when you like. They wanted to kill you off, they would just throw you into into a sonotai and so there's like bones and stuff in there and from thousands of years ago and there's, like my temple, still around over there that's so cool yeah, so they would just throw their people in there and they would either drown or starve to death that die you know, so eventually they died.
Bailey :But you're just like in this water, just like people have died in here so I was.
Dylan :Yeah, they had this thing. It's called a blue hole and it's underwater cave that's so sick they never found the bottom. They have a measured depth, like if you Google it it'll have a bottom, it's called the blue pole. Dean's blue hole oh yeah, so there is a recorded depth but it's not accurate. That's where you die, that's where people die. That's how far they got without dying like it's fine. Yeah, so there's people and they don't recover the bodies. So there's people that they know it's deeper, you just?
Dylan :they just can, it's like 500 feet from where they're like. That's the measure. It's like almost 600. I think.
Bailey :Well, in one of them I was dumb and I was like I love capturing every single moment of my life and I'm like the this girl that has like barely left red bluff and has only been to certain places. So I'm like, okay, I'm gonna vlog everything on my phone. So I put it in this little pouch and I'm like swimming with this pouch and my phone falls and luckily I was able to get my phone and yes, we did find it.
Bailey :But my phone was wrecked and we were there for ten days so I didn't have a phone for like half the trip. So like that kind of sucked. I came home and we took it into Verizon. They're like oh, what'd you do to it? And I was like just spilled some water on it.
Dylan :So I guess they have found it, so I guess probably with sonar or whatever they're. So 665 feet, what is that in the middle? I know that's what I'm like that looks like a gas port to the like a volcanic somebody like opened up well so this is what it looks like that's literally yeah, so that's why so there's these rocks, so you jump off that and it's anywhere from 15 to 50 feet and it's it's called a K.
Dylan :A K is something surrounded by three sides, okay, and so this blue hole. You're looking at these fucking building size boulders and it's so clear you think you're gonna land on them. So I had to do the little one first.
Bailey :I didn't trust the water.
Dylan :Now I was like that thing looks like it's right there it wasn't, it was a hundred plus.
Bailey :It was so fucking far crazy it was so far from that high up it doesn't it feel like your body's going hundreds of feet? Down and then you're just like I. Just gotta get back to the top, just gotta get back to the top.
Dylan :The thing is it feels that way, but mine, when I think about it right now, like my ears never get pressurized. Yeah, like we're not that. Yeah, it does.
Bailey :Like well, panic sets in as soon as you my god especially with those rocks oh my god, my whole thing was like I've never even seen Meg so you went down that hole yeah, we went fully into the cavern we just swam in it, we didn't dive yeah, we did all of this and at the whole time I was just like makes gonna come out and eat me, like this giant shark that no one even knows about they're gonna be blind and they just like somehow survived. Jason Stameth is coming in but it was.
Bailey :Those were like the best part of the whole trip 100%, we did over like ten of them, like so many different ones kind of became the thing.
Dylan :Yeah, you were like we're doing me and Mattel.
Bailey :We're just obsessed with it that's cool yeah, it was super sick. So, yeah, cancun was fun. His family is going to Italy now, so in June, and I'm like didn't you guys love me for the next 10 years? I don't need birthday presents, take me to Italy, oh I think there was a show where you sold, you got.
Dylan :You sold years of your life for like well-being oh my gosh so you'd have to give them 20 years of like running on a treadmill.
Bailey :I don't know what it's called but that is so crazy, giving your life for some more words. Italy's worth it, oh yeah.
Dylan :I want to travel, I want to go, I wanted a backpack across Europe, and then I got into motorcycles as I got older and 19, I got my first one and then I was like, dude, I want to go ride motorcycle. That'd be way cooler in the countryside and stuff. Yeah, so one day probably maybe probably kids. Change up your life. Mattel and.
Bailey :I have been married five years. Wow, I got married in high school really yeah, oh, yeah me.
Dylan :What was that like, as far as like crazy, like I'm looking at people. Yeah, my little brother.
Bailey :Wade is 19, but when he was 18 and a senior like I view him has like a baby. I'm like oh, you know and I'm like I was, like I was married at your age, like what yeah, so me and Mattel met when I was so cool super little. We went to church together we grew up together. He was my brother's best friend, like it was like literally a little rom-com, but yeah, 14, I was like, oh, this kid's kind of cute, you know, like he's getting warmer chair and he's 16, you know at that time, so I'm like good yeah, so yeah, somehow he liked me a little, 14 year old, and my mom was very against it she was like my dad thought my mom had approved it.
Dylan :They're divorced so then, my dad oh, so you don't have to like they're not the same house.
Bailey :You can really pull this shit, but I didn't even have to my dad literally Mattel, because him and Darren are friends okay, I would go over to my dad's house and spend the night. Mateo, to go to my mom's house and spend the night. You know, like everybody's house, who's spending the night? I would dare and my dad had found out Mateo to ask me to be his Valentine. Like not dating, it was just very like cutesy, like will you be my Valentine?
Bailey :you know, and my dad heard that and so he's like, oh, they're dating and so my dad sits us down. Well, first he made before I show.
Dylan :This is like the first sit-down, yeah.
Bailey :I'm like 14 years old, scared, shitless, because my father's like you would dating this boy behind my back and I'm like I didn't date anybody.
Dylan :I remember being that kid yeah. I've sat down. I think it sat down your heart, just like oh my god, what are your intentions? And a 60-year-old boy has one intention like you know, about kids play with tits, literally my family is so religious. I just want to love her for ever.
Bailey :I've never, even had a boyfriend before. I'm just like what the heck is going on right now and I didn't tell my dad about Mateo Darren freaking open his lips yeah brothers. Yeah. So before I even showed up, my dad had made Mateo wash his car and yeah and over at his house like hanging out playing games with Darren on the Xbox. But nae, nae, didn't happen.
Dylan :He was a working man test, though I have a daughter.
Bailey :I need to remember these things. Yeah, it really works. Yeah, free labor okay, literally so my dad. I show up and he's like, yeah, so you have my blessing, he's a good kid and all this stuff and this whole time I'm just like what? Like we're not even together.
Dylan :So before we leave.
Bailey :I remember Mateo going so you weren't even like yeah at the point yeah, we literally had gone one date that included my mother and my stepdad.
Dylan :Yeah, those dates, those dates you're like you're too young to be alone.
Bailey :Exactly for the boy and so, as we're walking out, he goes. So does this mean I can call you my girlfriend? Never actually made you guys and my dad thinks that we were dating this whole time and I was like no dad like you, literally you just initiated a relationship and then I went home and I told my mom yeah me, mateo, we're dating now. Dad said it was okay.
Dylan :My mom's like okay, pretty much arranged it so at what age did you get married?
Bailey :yeah. So then Mateo left when I was 16 to join the military, because he's two years older than me, so he graduated.
Dylan :I knew that's something he always wanted to do. Yeah, I knew he was gonna go. I guess not hereditary, but is it in the?
Bailey :yeah it was in his family. Yeah, and he went in doing the same thing. His dad was a tanker, so, mateo, was like I want to be a tanker and so, yeah, that's how I went in and I four years, or yeah, he did four years single miss me he, he wanted to do more, but when he was in he actually ended up getting pretty sick on a rotation in Germany and he was in the hospital for like three months in.
Bailey :Germany. So when he came back he just like his health wasn't the same and it was just like his. Even his sergeants could see that. Like he went from this top-notch soldier to like I've had, I've had that experience in my trade and had to like quit jobs don't call it like cuz we're dispatched through the hall to get unemployment.
Dylan :You have to put your name on the list and if you're not searching for work, but the hall takes care of your people so they're like as long as you're on the list, we're never gonna tell, we're never gonna deny your unemployment. Yeah, he's turned down work, so you just tell him, like I don't, don't call me, for I'll call you when I'm ready. I got COVID and then wasn't cooked. I got over it.
Dylan :You know we quick five days yeah but then some things like it was the last just happened yeah, there was like some over the next six months, just some weird getting like headed on the steel, like in the air that's so sketchy I was like I don't know what the fuck's going on and then I think I stressed myself into having back problems. You can anxiety yourself in the pain and then once you yeah. So I had to take this like six months off and just try and figure that out like just they.
Dylan :It was the same. It was not me. They came up was like, essentially like letting me off, but they're like.
Bailey :I think you need to go get some. This would be in your best interest.
Dylan :You're not healthy. I was having to miss work for appointments and stuff.
Bailey :And just like man.
Dylan :I almost, I like had to sit down like get real lightheaded and be like I can't even work for 30 minutes.
Bailey :That's crazy.
Dylan :And we came on a liability. Yeah, at that point.
Bailey :Mateo's was more so the aftermath cause he got. I think it was like they okay, it was a German hospital and the first off the military. You think they're probably pretty they were in like a very rural area and the military didn't even let me know. Mateo was in the hospital and at this point we were married. Okay, so let me go back. I got, I got engaged at 17. Mateo came home, surprised me, did a whole engagement.
Dylan :It was like yeah, he's already in the military.
Bailey :And he's like 19. At that point I'm 17. And then I plan a wedding in six months and I turned 18 right before.
Dylan :So then I so you didn't need the approval or anything. Oh wow.
Bailey :So then which my mom she?
Dylan :They would have. It sounds like it was. Everybody loves Mateo.
Bailey :So, and we grew up together, so it wasn't like some random kid.
Dylan :Well, when you start your story off I got married in high school You're like interesting. Yeah, I know. But it's true I was literally we got married over we got married over Christmas break, holiday classic.
Bailey :I was on dance team. I did holiday classic and then went and like picked up Mateo from the airport.
Dylan :I used to do all the mixing for dancing. Yes, I love that.
Bailey :I love it. It's amazing. But yeah, I did holiday classic, my regular, like high school experience, picked up Mateo from the airport Two days later. We're on Christmas break, I get married, I go to Kansas for two weeks, he ships out for a year and goes to Germany and Poland and I'm finishing up my senior year of high school.
Dylan :What was that like? Being married with the high-pracy? We've done distance. It's different with a kid, for sure I could do it more. I've done it several times with Alexa and other women and it's like manageable. It's different when you're married, but man, when I had the kid. So what was that like? A whole year I've never been away.
Bailey :Where I feel like.
Dylan :And you're not a plane right away.
Bailey :Yeah, no, I literally cannot go see him.
Dylan :Like he's on a base and doing like trainings and like patrolling and not a lot of time to talk.
Bailey :Yeah, no, and when you get there you have to buy a whole new phone and a whole new service plan and half the time it doesn't work.
Dylan :Different phone number area codes, and half the time it doesn't even work.
Bailey :It was super normal for me to like not hear from him for like a week at a time, you know. And it would be like oh, it was so honestly, it was like so depressing, because you think of like oh, you get married, it's the happiest time of your life.
Dylan :And you're still like young naive and I'm literally in high school.
Bailey :Yeah, yeah yeah, and like I remember going to showing up at dancing practices and Miss Schultz being like, like what's?
Dylan :wrong Schultz. I remember Schultz.
Bailey :And I be like crying and she's like it's okay, Like it's gonna get better, Like I was such a child honestly. But yeah, I do tell my friends like that are in relationships now, like I think that the distance made us so much stronger.
Dylan :Honestly, we had less things to fight about. Yeah, and you're allowed to like. You have this like different respect for your time, Exactly. And also a respect for your space.
Bailey :Exactly.
Dylan :You learn to love your space, like I'm, like I actually need time away from you, like just give me a couple of well, like right now we're both at home. I had a surgery a month ago, oh really On my shoulder.
Dylan :yeah, I didn't know that you didn't know. Yeah, I wouldn't know. I have incredible recovery. That's awesome. But so I'm down for a while and that's kind of with picking everything up and I'm gonna take the whole year off. And so I'm down and we're home a lot and it's like okay, and I realized like so she's going to work every few days or here and there and then gets to go to the gym, but I can't work out yet, so I'm not at the gym.
Bailey :I don't get those two, three hours.
Dylan :So I was like I wake up to you, you leave.
Bailey :It's a constant Baby dog and now puppy, and then you come home.
Dylan :And it's like you, baby dog, you, baby dog. It's like I don't have a me time and yeah, so I was like because there's a time where she wanted to keep go to bed together and I was like I need to stay up because I need this three hours.
Bailey :But too does that to me all the time and I, honestly, for the longest time, I still sometimes if I'm like really like, oh, why don't you want to go to bed with me? I still get my feelings here, but that's so true. There are where you just kind of need your space, where you're just like OK, this is what I need. For us, I feel like it was a big thing where we it totally made us stronger, because when he came home I literally was like counting down the days to see him.
Dylan :And it was just like the most amazing I had a countdown on my phone. I actually put it. They have countdown apps. That's literally what I used to it was like a little picture of us.
Bailey :Yes, yes yeah, the countdown, but yeah, it was really hard, probably the hardest thing I've gone through.
Dylan :You definitely questioned to your future and your man.
Bailey :I'm like, OK, I'm married, but I'm not married because he's not here.
Dylan :And I'm still living at home and I'm still in high school, and that really feels single. You're not communicating every day, exactly.
Bailey :And so the whole thing. When he went into the hospital, I didn't even know, because it's very normal for us to not text each other every day because he could have been out in the field and he didn't have service or something.
Dylan :It's crazy that they want to notify you that your husband is a hateful.
Bailey :How I found out was one of his buddies had messaged me on Instagram. That was in Germany with him on this rotation, and he's like hey, just a heads up Like Matteo's in the hospital. I'm here with him. He's been here for like three, four days. He says he loves you and when he can he'll message you and I'm like what you know? So I'm like I'm like freshly 18. I don't know what I'm doing. I'm trying to get a hold of somebody. There's these military wife groups that you can put in when your husbands leave.
Bailey :So I got put in this group of these middle aged women.
Dylan :Oh, so they actually have a support system. Oh, oh, oh, so you're clearly the youngest.
Bailey :And I'm like, what do I do? My husband's in the hospital no one's notified me and one lady's like that's illegal. It is right, OK, OK so they're calling around trying to figure out who Matteo's higher up is. What the fuck?
Dylan :And.
Bailey :I'm like I've only heard, I don't know, I'm so fresh to this, I'm a brand new military wife, you know. And so Matteo finally calls me the next day and he's like yeah, I think I'm dying. And I was like what?
Dylan :Can you get malaria?
Bailey :Yeah, he just was like I've never felt pain like this in my life before Pain.
Dylan :And he has Not just sick pain?
Bailey :Yeah, and he has. He like face times me and he has IVs in his neck.
Dylan :What.
Bailey :On his sides and his arms Like every single spot and they did like a fluid test on his back, like they had to get spinal fluid. And so he was like Serious. These big two German guys came in and held me down and they don't speak.
Dylan :English. I heard it, heard it. They don't speak English at all, so I had no idea what was going on and he's sharing a room.
Bailey :They didn't get like translators for the military to bring a guy in, so in this whole time I still haven't heard from any of his higher ups and Mattel's like in and out, because he's on hard drugs and so much pain. So I couldn't get ahold of him. So I went online or I went onto a Snapchat and located the nearest hospital where his Snapchat location was. I sound like a crazy person, but my husband, I thought was dying.
Dylan :It's your husband.
Bailey :Yeah, yeah. And then I call that hospital. They don't speak any English. So then I hang up, I learn German.
Dylan :Enough German to Enough German to say Like military, like soldier army. Name.
Bailey :Mattel's name and like I need to speak to him, type thing.
Dylan :Wow, I eventually got through. That's so crazy.
Bailey :Yeah, all because this freaking military wouldn't talk to me 20 years ago we had to get in psychopedia. Yeah, I'd be like how do I say?
Dylan :this English German dictionary. You'd go buy it in a store.
Bailey :Yeah, but I got to Mattel's room. That's awesome. Got to Mattel's room, he had consistently like his friends there with him, so eventually his friends were just kind of like texting me back and forth, communicating Finally his one of his higher up.
Dylan :I still haven't reached out to you, still haven't reached out.
Bailey :Finally, one of the higher ups messaged me a very vague thing, saying, like the next shipment of soldiers they're going to bring back to the states, mattel will go back with them.
Dylan :So they only notified you when he was Once he was going to be like Coming off of the tour.
Bailey :Yeah, and so saying that he would be coming home early because of, like, a health reason.
Dylan :So they still didn't tell me they still weren't really like talking to me.
Bailey :Much Mattel's still in the hospital at this point, so they're like we don't know when he's coming.
Dylan :He's been in the hospital for 10 days, yeah, and also, I'm living in California.
Bailey :I just graduated high school and I'm supposed to, when he comes home, I'm supposed to already be in Kansas with an apartment set up and everything. So I like they're not giving me a day of when they're sending him home, they're just like the next shipment he'll go with them. So my sister was dating.
Dylan :And you're 18. Yeah, I'm 18 years old, just freaking out.
Bailey :My sister was dating a first sergeant.
Dylan :That's very strong, thank you.
Bailey :That's hard, don't worry, I was lots of tears, lots of tears. It was very stressful, but my sister was dating a first sergeant, and so I called him and I was like James, this is what's going on? Like, is this normal? And he's like what the fuck? You know he goes, give me his unit. Ba ba, ba, ba ba. I'm like I don't know if I should Like. This might get Mattel in trouble.
Dylan :Right, you know Like wait, hang on, where's this going? Yeah, so I'm like Matt. This was me venting until I got an answer.
Bailey :And so James figured it out that an hour later I had his sergeant on the phone.
Dylan :An hour Talking to me, that's great.
Bailey :I'm so sorry, man, this is so unacceptable of how this is being handled. Ba ba, ba, ba ba, you know.
Dylan :What do they do? Rectify it? Nothing, literally nothing.
Bailey :And so they still were. Like we can't give you an exact date, we don't know, but we'll let you know when he's shipping out.
Dylan :Oh, so you get a flight, you get an eight hour warning.
Bailey :Yeah, and I'm literally I'm driving with my mom to Kansas with all of my shit Mattel's shit.
Dylan :Did you call or do anything to try and get a place in advance? Are you just showing up and house hunting?
Bailey :I had already had an apartment lined up for when. Mattel was coming back.
Dylan :And so you kind of had an idea, I had an idea, but they called me. But you probably had it scheduled for a certain time.
Bailey :So they call me and they're like he's shipping out in two hours. He will be there at this date.
Dylan :You're still on the road.
Bailey :No, I'm in Red Bluff. They haven't even notified me, so I'm in Red Bluff, just like live in my life.
Dylan :Two hours.
Bailey :Like oh, I'm on summer vacation. You had two hours. So I was like oh, my god so that's a 20.
Dylan :That's actually a 29 hour trip.
Bailey :I did that recently that, yeah, Mattel was like it was the worst thing in my life, so he got there before you. No, you manage. You manage, does he wait? So then I pack up my life and one night, my brother Cody, it was the sweetest thing ever. He comes up to me, he's like I'm going to miss you so much and he hands me $100 for cash Because for gas and stuff he's just like I know you weren't expecting to just up and leave, so me and my mom get in the car.
Bailey :We drive all the way to Kansas. I talk to my apartments and they're like, yeah, you can, just, we'll figure it out, we'll put you in a different apartment that's available, no. I, Mattel, didn't want to live on base.
Dylan :So I'm talking to civilians, so this is OK, but I'm telling them my soft story.
Bailey :They're really working with me. So we get there and we have an apartment. We drove a little Nissan car there and filled it with as much as we possibly could with me and Matteo's stuff. We have no furniture, nothing. I get there, Matteo calls me. Oh yeah, I'm not coming home for another two weeks.
Dylan :Whoa what he's getting on the plane. They changed his flight, they changed his flight. So, hey, I'm about to board. Yeah, and now just kidding.
Bailey :they didn't have enough room, so now I'm not going to be home for another two weeks. So then my mom was stuck in Kansas with me for two weeks.
Dylan :Well, at least you got it furnished.
Bailey :Yeah, it's sure we did, but even my bed, matteo, our bed.
Dylan :Now he's always like oh, matt is stressed on that drive.
Bailey :The amount of stress and he's calling me and he's like can you?
Dylan :Because he would have beat you, oh yeah, yeah, by a day, but he would have been going straight to another hospital. He was still sick.
Bailey :Wow, yeah, so I would have been meeting him at the hospital.
Dylan :And then we're going to put him on a special flight with a bed.
Bailey :You don't even know what they were planning. I think they were just talking out their ass trying to save themselves, because of all the crap that went down.
Dylan :What does he think? How did he think happened?
Bailey :He honestly doesn't like.
Dylan :He eats something. Well, I think he drinks some water or something.
Bailey :They said that he ended up with pancreatitis that lead to a severe case of bronchitis.
Dylan :Is that, when it's in your lungs, like liquid is in your lungs. It's either that or pneumonia.
Bailey :Pneumonia, maybe it was pneumonia.
Dylan :I think it's pneumonia that's deadly. It's pneumonia because it was really extreme.
Bailey :And his lungs, like too this day, are fucked up. So yeah, but that's what they claimed and then once he got back, after that two weeks. Mateo is a very hard-headed man who does not like to take advantage.
Dylan :You served your country, I know, and I literally sat him down and talked to him about that.
Bailey :But he just is like I want to work for my money, I don't want to just be giving it.
Dylan :But you did. You literally gave your life. You're not the same person.
Bailey :Dylan, if you want to sit down and talk to him about this, please do.
Dylan :Yeah, I put him on the headset and say, let's yeah.
Bailey :Dude, he would have some crazy stories for you.
Dylan :That would be so sick.
Bailey :He has so many cool stories from the military. His friends were such doofus.
Dylan :There was a movie called Lawless. Have you ever seen it? I don't think so. This guy got shot like 10 times. Oh my god, he got his throat slit ear to ear.
Bailey :From being in the military.
Dylan :No, no, no, Just like a moonshiner, wild. Wow, kind of like a Kentucky.
Bailey :Maybe in the Appalachian yeah.
Dylan :He died in pneumonia Going to take a piss by his frozen pond, stop it. Got out, and that's what killed him. After all of that, all these wars and literally bullet holes just slit throats. And this is back in the moonshine, in the prohibition, so you're not getting the medical care we have now no You're getting stitched up with yeah.
Bailey :That is so crazy.
Dylan :Alcohol on the wound, you know.
Bailey :Oh man, that'll be good.
Dylan :Here's some pain meds.
Bailey :If I need to, I'll just cut it off later.
Dylan :Take a swig. I'm about to cut you up and I'm like fuck. And then pneumonia yeah, got him It'll get the strongest man yeah.
Bailey :But yeah, that was my Getting Married in High School story up until. But yeah, we just had our five-year anniversary in December.
Dylan :Congrats, so what?
Bailey :day, the 22nd.
Dylan :Oh wow, that's the 27th. What, oh? My sister's birthday, but I'll never forget.
Bailey :That's true.
Dylan :I'm test-metallic all the time it just happened, because it was shotgun too, and timing and some flight things because of winter. Yeah, bad idea, right.
Bailey :Did you guys get married in Florida?
Dylan :No, we got married right here in the Kimball Square. It's a clock tower, but even that was supposed to be somewhere else. And then because she got a flight delay, so then it got pushed back a day, and then there was like she didn't want an anniversary on a parents anniversary and then my dad was like OK, fine, it could be my sister's birthday, so whose day?
Dylan :are we going to steal? Oh, let's steal the one she was born on, not this day of an anniversary which is just a made up. Oh my gosh, that's a legal day and this is a birthday. So I think OK, whatever you want, you're the wife you do.
Bailey :Oh, it's always us. It's always our picking for sure Well. Mateo in my head I had this whole thing where I was like I'm going to have an October wedding in the fall, but we had a full wedding, it wasn't like that, because you had time to plan.
Dylan :You had six months, yeah, and then I was a waitress and a hostess over at Green Barn.
Bailey :And I was saving all my tips and I paid for pretty much the whole wedding with all of that and the wedding was absolutely beautiful and where was I going with this?
Dylan :I can't remember, it doesn't matter.
Bailey :But yeah, the shotgun wedding. We thought we were going to have to just go to the courthouse and do it but. I was like I know I'm only going to get married once. It has to be a good wedding.
Dylan :Oh god, don't tell that to Alexa. I told her I said, look, we'll go renew our vows and the Bahamas, that's what I was going to say Just renew your vows. I said we've got to island the Bahamas, oh my gosh.
Bailey :And Alexa and a cute little white tight dress. Oh girl, she looked so good.
Dylan :She did black oh she did black. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Bailey :I should use off that vibe. I could see that. I could see that.
Dylan :I wanted to wear purple. Oh, I like purple. That was.
Bailey :Mateo. When we went to prom he was the only guy in a white suit. I was so embarrassed, I was like you're only wearing this because you're not allowed to wear it during our wedding, but he got married in his dress blues which was really nice.
Dylan :That's legit.
Bailey :Yeah, awesome Marriage.
Dylan :Well, I think we made it. We made it to the finish line. You know what? For the first time, we didn't finish the set. That's a good sign. And for the first time, I didn't have a guest even touch it.
Bailey :You didn't even touch it once, so you got to hold it. I was not going to try to mess this up.
Dylan :This is too beautiful. You got to show it off. Show it off to the Yep. She did all this work.
Bailey :Ladies and gentlemen, I was working with my eyes.
Dylan :Yeah, we built this platform.
Bailey :They're performers, they're dancers. Yeah, look, he slaps, he's going to like oh my gosh, he is a dancer, he's got tears. Oh, it's a little stage.
Dylan :I had to build you something and it represents me because I'm a dancer. Yeah exactly. Oh my gosh, I stopped right there on purpose you knew.
Bailey :But yeah, so I built this, so hire me. So many firsts, pretty much a this is a show of many firsts.
Dylan :Yes, first time where I'm in someone else's house or shop.
Bailey :We are in a public place Second time, so first time Not finishing all of it myself and I didn't finish. Listen, I didn't want to mess it up.
Dylan :I told him I had a lot of anxiety. I've never built Legos so.
Bailey :I was like I'm going to let Dylan do his thing. He can pop off.
Dylan :Yeah, and you did, you did. I was like I better start building, because this is literally Do people usually like grab it and start. I'll make you guys do a little bit.
Bailey :Yeah, a little bit Again, because I have more stories. For sure, I can talk for days.
Dylan :You know I've never That'll be another. First, I've never had repeat guests.
Bailey :I love you, bailey, every Friday.
Dylan :Yeah, yeah, this is great and for the first time, like, even Like, all have to respect all my guests.
Bailey :I love all the stories.
Dylan :I'm fully engaged every time, but for the first time I was like yeah, I like this one. I would just set that aside.
Bailey :And it's crazy I'm only 23 and I've had all these crazy experiences. Oh my God.
Dylan :Yeah, I relate to that a lot. I did not the same thing at all. But I took the same path, yes, kind of like, did initiate, you know, took initiative, did things that shouldn't have been done in my age. You know, I owned a gym at one point. What?
Bailey :Yeah, I had like 300 clients. What the heck.
Dylan :Yeah, and that went from a dying gym of losing people every day and I turned it around with me and my other business partner and within three months back to like 300 people.
Bailey :That is insane. Where was that at?
Dylan :A little town called Well, I can't say I don't know the name of the actual town, but the town it was right across, like two miles away from a little bitty town with 800 people called Eilton. It's out on the River Delta, the Sacramento.
Bailey :River.
Dylan :Oh, okay, so you go through Sac. If you take the Sacramento way to get to San Francisco and then goes through Pittsburgh and goes down that way through the Delta, that's beautiful. But yeah, it was the only gym, and so, man, in the connection of like watching, people transform and then watching their attitudes transformed, being super insecure and depressed.
Dylan :And then watching them like grow and little incremental changes and then they're like, oh, it hurts. And the next thing you know they're like showing up and then some people would fade and you had high hopes for it. It became a family.
Bailey :That's how I feel with this.
Dylan :I'm invested in seeing and I promise you you could do this.
Bailey :And they're like, oh, I love this guy. He's like totally been there for a while, yeah, and it was really cool. I feel that same way with this.
Dylan :It was really cool and it was kind of like I was just there. This was his dream, my welding partner that we traveled to get it was my traveling partner. It was his dream. So I went to Montana and made crazy money. Come back. That is so awesome and we bought up this guy's retired he just happened to retire bought up all of his equipment for welding, started a little in the garage side business and then worked at that gym for free and just start doing it, literally.
Bailey :I still don't pay myself to this day, and I've been in it at two years. Good yeah, that's cool and every single thing I just reinvest back into business and that's how it is. You know, small businesses if you want to see them grow.
Dylan :Yep man, you're really inspiring me. So this town with Legos? There's nowhere to buy them. Walmart- yeah. You don't want a kid.
Bailey :Oh, dude, legos would be such a freaking hit.
Dylan :Yeah, and there's weird like Walmart doesn't carry some things and then recently one of my friends.
Bailey :she's also into Legos. She was talking to my brother-in-law and Ryan is like 14 and they were like, oh, we just really want to get some Lego sets, but like we don't want to go to Walmart, they went all the way to San Francisco.
Dylan :Yeah, yeah, took a full trip. That's the closest. I think Sacramento might have a Lego store, or it's, I don't even know, I think the Sacramento one closed like her.
Bailey :San Francisco then yeah.
Dylan :And then like there's another store called bricks and minifigs. It's like a secondary market of used Lego and stuff. It's kind of like a game stop for Lego as a storefront. They have those same things online, but this is a brick and mortar store.
Bailey :We can actually go and use and play with it and to the same grand scale as Lego.
Dylan :Every city has one. And it's like there's a Lego store and there's a bricks and minifigs, and if it's not here, it's at this neighboring city.
Bailey :And dude. Imagine if you had your own Lego store. So I have a friend so many new people to put on the podcast.
Dylan :And you could do what my dad did set it up in the in the store. So I have a friend that did this in that little town called Hermiston. Oh, really when they only had a Walmart I had you had to drive hours, hours and hours off. I mean three plus hours.
Bailey :Yeah.
Dylan :Probably two hours to get one and then to get to a store other than Walmart like a target, but the Lego store was in Portland. So, you had to go. It was like three and a half hours.
Bailey :Yeah.
Dylan :And hundreds of miles. So yeah, San Francisco distance.
Bailey :Yeah, same thing.
Dylan :So he opened this store. It doesn't make money, but it doesn't cost money.
Bailey :Yeah.
Dylan :And his wife is busy doing it. And, like with me, like my wife loves her job. I don't really need a job, she can afford it but I want to work and I could do these things that you know tax write offs, pay for themselves.
Bailey :So that's an income right there, if I can get a tax write off.
Dylan :I just made, whatever you know, the write off If it can take care of itself. So I might have to reach out to him because this seems like a. It's a, like I said, same population, same size, same need.
Bailey :Oh, dude, and now I can't even imagine my life without it. Like I, there are definitely are slow months where I'm like, oh, like I wish I was making more money but, I'm not like drowning, you know, and that even happens in there.
Dylan :We're both in construction.
Bailey :Yeah.
Dylan :So November, December, count on losing money. Yeah, you know losing it because it's a holidays and you're not working. Yeah, You're lucky to get 40.
Bailey :So does construction yeah.
Dylan :She's a rider.
Bailey :I've seen some of her like videos and like on Instagram or something she'll be like in her vest and her hard hat.
Dylan :You're so fricking pretty Like how are you?
Bailey :doing construction right now.
Dylan :And it's 110 and she's on the asphalt, yeah.
Bailey :I know.
Dylan :I'm like dude, let's go to Portland, Come back to Oregon with me. And you got it. Yeah, you got to sit in the rain. Yeah, I don't get to wear rain gear because I'm welding so I'm just burned. Even if I do, it just has holes. So the rain gear I do, it doesn't do much. No, it gives you a little time.
Bailey :Yeah, so are you? You're not working right now?
Dylan :No, so what I do I can't do here, I would have to go to. Sacramento or San Francisco and I just moved around. So I rodeoed and we raised bulls.
Bailey :So we went to all the rodeos. We actually have the biggest rodeo, and what is that called?
Dylan :Biggest three day rodeo, yeah, prca.
Bailey :Literally insane that our little town gets all these people for rodeo and then the bull and yielding sale. Oh my gosh, it's coming up. It's my first time in 10 years, maybe longer.
Dylan :You're going to go yeah of course I wanted to bring them last year but just didn't work out.
Bailey :I tried to get on the list to sell stuff there. I called way too late. She's like you need to call in the summertime.
Dylan :Yeah.
Bailey :I was like oh okay, can I get on for rodeo though?
Dylan :And you might consider I mean, you know you have a good network, but a mom knows a lot of people down there because we're in the lifestyle but they're not cheap.
Bailey :No, you could consider splitting one. Yeah, yeah.
Dylan :Because I know people that do. I actually know people that go to all the rodeos and sell clothes.
Bailey :Oh, that's awesome.
Dylan :And stuff like that.
Bailey :For me. I want to do my hair tinsel. Like that's what I think a lot of the girls would like be crazy about what Hair tinsel?
Dylan :So you know like Christmas tree tinsel like, you grab tinsel and you put it on a tree.
Bailey :I am pretty much putting that in your hair with like hair extension. It's like a hair extension, but instead of hair I'm putting tinsel.
Dylan :Yeah, that's cool and it lasts for like a month. Really.
Bailey :But I started doing it last summer and that was literally what all of my income was coming from last summer. And still to this day. I get like four or five hair tinsels a week. Wow, but, if I was at rodeo.
Dylan :And they last that long and you're still getting that. So it's not like the same person every week, it's new people.
Bailey :I mean, I have my consistent girls that come in and switch it up and I'm like okay, I've had it for two weeks, Can?
Dylan :you take it out and put a new color in.
Bailey :Type thing. But if I was doing hair tinsel at rodeo, I could do like horses hair tinsel, yeah, and then barrel racers.
Dylan :And so my sister's the president of the NSBRA, the regional barrel racing circuit. So yeah, I can help you out, get connected to some people.
Bailey :You guys heard it here first. Yeah, yeah, we'll get both so and rodeo.
Dylan :Yeah, we'll work on it. That would be so sick To those type of venues. It could probably help you with some people that would be so sick.
Bailey :Because I have all these. I mean, I grew up in Red Bluff, but I've never lived a lifestyle of being country or like rodeo, like my parents weren't like that, so I just didn't grow up like that.
Dylan :Which is good, because if you did a store like that, you would not. There's too many.
Bailey :You got the yeah. Yeah, there is too many.
Dylan :And then if you were to go to a thing like the Bull and Gilling sale everybody has one like that.
Bailey :Yeah, exactly, you're going to stand out with this.
Dylan :It's going to be a little different and even, if you like, if you were side by side, if you guys were splitting it, this side is going to draw them in, for sure, and then they're going to walk out with your shit. Yeah, because they're there for this shit. And then they're going to have a wall right, no wall, and they're just going to be like oh, it's on this side Yep, exactly, and then they'll walk out with this stuff Exactly, and then they're going to have a funnel to get, Because, I mean, obviously people are going to come.
Dylan :It's a beautiful display. I'm sure everything looks great and it has a. Everybody has a this. You know, this is style for anybody.
Bailey :Yeah.
Dylan :Especially with having extra stuff, but with that particular crowd that would probably help just get people that wouldn't normally go there, that walk in like.
Bailey :And like I'm on main street but, technically, I'm on Oak Street. Right Like a main street is here and, yeah, I'm still connected and I'm still like part of all their stuff.
Dylan :But I'm technically like you have one of the best off street.
Bailey :I do, I really do. And a little second main street and state theater is right across the street.
Dylan :That light is direct. Yep, yeah, exactly.
Bailey :I get so many people that are like oh, I just like.
Dylan :I just walked. Like 30 people walk by during this hour and a half.
Bailey :They do live music over here on Friday nights Enjoy, so it's always popping over here. They're probably like what are they doing, Right?
Dylan :I saw a lot of people looking and that's yeah, it's really cool. Yeah, I like this spot. Thanks for coming on, thanks for having me. We'll have to do it again.
Bailey :Yeah, I'll be back next month Before we cut off.
Dylan :Is there anything you want to talk about? Name off your socials, where you're at, where they can find you, your website, anything you want them to know.
Bailey :Yeah, my main page that I use is going to be my Instagram page, which is going to be pretty in pink underscore fashion boutique. I post everything on there my new arrivals, every time I'm doing a sale, like anything, and then from there I also have an online store that's pretty in pink, dot pink.
Bailey :So super easy to find and yeah, and then I have a storefront 338 Oak Street, red Bull, california. You guys can come see me anytime, see me in person, which is even more fun. But yeah, those are all my things that you can find me out.
Dylan :I have to vouch for that. It was fun.
Bailey :Well, thank you so much for having me, of course.
Dylan :All right, guys, we'll see you guys hopefully more consistently. Take care, have a good one.